In a society that focuses intensely on appearances, social status, college pedigree, career success, etc. it could be very easy to seek those types of characteristics in a spouse, instead of other qualities such as selflessness, humility, maturity, and even a good sense of humor. Yes, emotional and physical chemistry are very important in a marriage, but best selling author, therapist and public speaker Lori Gottlieb believes that a great spouse is not only a appealing romantic companion but also a steady partner with whom "to run a very small, mundane, nonprofit business"which, among its many perks includes, "having a solid like-minded teammate in life". Again, the emotional and physical chemistry is vital, but Gottlieb cautions, those looking for a lasting marriage "should look for a chemistry level that is a 6 or 7, and a compatibility level that's a 9"! Too often we get caught up in the ideal chemistry instead of looking at the bigger picture. We need to be founding our relationships on realistic expectations versus the fantasy we see in the world and media around us.
According to Dr. Gottman in "Introduction to Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives", "comical as it may sound romance actually grows when a couple are in a supermarket and the wife says, 'Are we out of bleach?' and the husband says, 'I don't know. Let me grab some just in case.' instead of shrugging apathetically." So what are some more examples of things that we can be doing in our marriages or relationships that will bring warmth and happiness that will stand the test of time?
Take a look at this fun little clip for some tips...
https://www.mormonchannel.org/watch/collection/tv-ads/lasting-marriage
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